It all starts with your mind

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

How we relate to that.
You're sitting in a coffee shop and a person walks by who's not dressed to your standards and you think "what the F were they thinking when they got dressed this morning, don't they have a mirror"?
You're sitting in a coffee shop and your friend comes in and you see the same person walk by and you say to your friend "what the F were they thinking when they got dressed this morning, don't they have a mirror"?
You're sitting in a coffee shop and said person walks by and you laugh.. at them
YOu're sitting in a coffee shop and you're laughing at everyone who's not up to your standards and you're talking about everyone to everyone. And then the people you spend time with start talking about you and how ugly your personality has become/is. And now instead of just thinking to yourself a negative thought, your character is negative and your destiny is headed to a place where you're sure you don't want to go.

how do we fix it?
displine what you think. When you're mind goes negitive your hear is quick to follow. Instead kill the thought, replace it with a loving and kind thought. Think instead "what were they thinking" think "what creative style they have, how cool that they can express themselves in such a interesting way" and when your friends make comments change the subject. Don't let your words become actions unless those words are loving and kind.

Continue to grow, as my dad say's if you're not growing your dying! Let's not grow ugly, let's grow kind.
watch what you say, it will become who you are.
Peace